Ok so this is my hair when I get out of the shower. It’s a big mess of curls and waves that for whatever reason never like to cooperate. I think most curly/wavy haired people can agree and relate.
Normally, I take the time to blowdry and straighten my hair… and 99% of the time I leave the house looking like this but sadly there are times where I simply don’t have the time to spend doing all of this, times where I’m feeling too lazy to do so or simply, times my hair could really just use a break from all of the abuse (sorry hair, I wouldn’t do all of this to you if you would just work with me).
So a quick version of why I go through such lengths is thanks to years of chemical/colour/styling mishaps. About 2 years ago (in 2012) I let someone bleach/highlight my hair. Now, I’m normally one to pause with moments of fear before going to get haircuts and what not, so over the years I’ve always just coloured my own hair at home or given myself mini haircuts/trims to full on cutting my own hair into a fauxhawk on several past occasions and come out victorious every time. I had been colouring my hair since high school and trimming and styling it myself and it has been proven that my hair can take a lot and still look and feel relatively healthy. But this time… when said person, an actual licensed hairstylist bleached my hair to lighten it up… the act of rebellion my hair displayed was absolutely traumatizing. Despite all the things my hair had been through previously, my hair had never broken or fallen out like this, so naturally I was a little scared. I lost about 40% of my hair’s volume thanks to it literally breaking and falling out in the shower, it felt like like straw and I was in a Catch22… my hair needed to be left alone but I couldn’t leave the house with it looking as it did in its natural state, I had to damage it further with heat and take it through a slew of treatments just to look halfway decent.
I cried several times over it, went to different salons for deep conditioning treatments and what not. Anywho, the only solution in these types of cases are simply to learn from the mistakes and time. Basically I learned that if a stylist tells you they can achieve something that drastic in one or two go’s… walk away. There are stylists that will give you the patience your hair needs and gradually move it from one point to the next to reach the final goal… and there are some that are all about instant gratification. My problem was I went with the later of the two types of stylists and put too much trust in someone who in turn broke my hair’s trust.. and well.. my hair altogether. The second thing I got from it was a fear of going to anyone for any services and spent the next few months deepconditioning and babying the hell out of my locks. Then came the third thing I had to do… I had to cut it. I went to a salon in Arlington and told the stylists there, ‘I need a haircut, I want to cut all of this off, I want zero memory of it and I want to start fresh, who’s willing to do this”. My hair was long. It was several inches past my shoulders, and I chopped it into a super short asymmetrical bob-a-la-frankie-sandford. It was cute, and thankfully super cooperative and felt healthy. From that point on, I spent all of 2013 growing that out and chopping the ends till 100% of the ruined hair was gone. That brings me to today.
Now I have a medium length bob that doesn’t rebel against me. It’s healthy and actually allows me to do a wash-and-go, and believe me, I’ve been revelling in it since! My natural curls cooperate with me and all sorts of weather conditions whether its humid or dry out. I can use normal shampoos and conditioners, my hair feels strong, soft, reflects light and smells great. My friend Katie at Aveda, did add some colour to it for fun a few months ago, and thanks to my hair being in good shape and Katie doing a stellar job at undertsanding my hair texture, she added colourful highlights to. It was bleached to platinum but still retained its soft feel and strength because it was done the right way (thanks Katie, you restored my faith in going to salons and rid me of my stylist anxiety haha).
Here’s my hair sans heat styling or hair product, au-natural and I can’t stress enough how awesome it feels to just be able to go all natural with it.
The only things I’ve been using in my hair is Bed Head shampoo and conditioner. I’ve been switching it up every month just to try each of the different scents. This month I’ve got the Dumb Blonde shampoo and conditioner in my shower. It smells like candy which is why I keep finding myself going back to it every few months.
Here’s what I’ve been using. I know the typical set comes with a normal conditioner but the Reconstructor conditioner works so well with my hair. Since my hair is curly and has a tendancy to frizz when it’s lacking moisture, the heavier conditioner helps tame it and keep it happy. Plus it smells awesome. Some salons carry this, you can also find it pretty much anywhere from grocery stores to places like CVS and Walgreens. For the larger 25.36fl. oz bottles, you will either have to get it from a salon or do what I do with everything, order it online. Amazon has the set currently for $32.93 and is Prime eligible 🙂 Click HERE to check it out and order the set I’ve been using.
Also for the days that I want to put my hair up, and a messy bun isn’t going to cut it, I’ve grown to love the ‘sockbun’.
These hairstyling rings look like kitchen sponge donuts, and for a while I thought they were ridiculous but they actually work. They’re super helpful too if you don’t have crazy long hair but want to achieve that quick super neat large bun. I got this one while I was shopping at H&M and gave it a quick try and was extremely pleased with the end result. It took me about 5 minutes to put in my hair from start to finish. All you need is the styling ring, 2-3 hairties and a few bobbypins (I’ve been anti hairproduct overload lately but if needed, a little hairspray can help with setting everything or taming flyaways). This maxi hairstyling ring can be ordered HERE . There are different sizes to choose from and they come in different colours to fit your hair. The one I purchased was the maxi size which is about 4 inches in diameter. Here’s the end result:
I definitely didn’t think I would be able to achieve a massive, cute donut bun with the length at which my hair is right now (shoulder-length) but I did and I’m very pleased with it. Super quick and easy. Its a great solution for the days when my hair is a complete mess and I don’t have the time to deal with it. The styling ring comes with tiny instructional illustrations that help. You basically brush your hair in a ponytail (honestly, the messier your hair the easier it will be to pin in place, so don’t worry if your curls and waves are not making any sense). Once you’ve got your ponytail in place and at the height at which you want your bun, just pull your ponytail through the center of the styling ring, spread your hair out over all of the sides of the ring, then secure in place by putting another hairtie over it. This covers the styling ring with your hair and makes the bun… if there are sections of the styling ring visible, just adjust and move the hair around it to cover it. Super quick. Now with the leftover bits of hair sticking out from around the bun, just take those ends and wrap them around the base of the bun, and secure in place with a bobbypin or two. Set with a light spritz of hairspray, smooth down any flyaways, and you’re all done. You can glam it up by adding a cute headband (I use one just so my bangs don’t pop out since I’m still in the process of growing them out) or add cute hair accessories around the bun.
There are plenty of ways to avoid heatstyling and still look like you took the time to do your hair 🙂 I’d love to hear what everyone’s been doing to keep their hair healthy and looking cute!